Charles Onyeabor, the European-based Nigerian musician and son of the late Afro-funk icon, has ignited a fervent conversation online after sharing a daring message aimed at false friends and his evolving philosophy on relationships.
In his now famous post, Onyeabor conveyed his discontent with one-sided friendships and stressed that loyalty and respect are core principles for him. He candidly revealed that he has reconsidered his interactions with others and is implementing substantial changes to ensure his relationships are rooted in mutual trust.
Dear Friends,
This message is directed to you. I’ve made some modifications in my life that you should be aware of. I am quite traditional in my approach to friendships, which signifies that when I’m your friend, I’m immensely loyal, but many of you seem to favor the contemporary notion of friendship, which is transactional.
From now on,
If I call you twice and you don’t get back to me or even drop me a text after 24 hours, I will simply erase your number. No be only you sabi dey busy. Everyone has their own busyness.
If you do not support my music, business, or anything related to me while I’ve consistently backed yours, I’m halting this effective immediately. No be only you dey smart.
If you haven’t reached out in ages and suddenly contact me asking for money or assistance, you will be promptly blocked unless I’m feeling generous.
It’s a TIT for TAT Season
Now, a reminder for everyone reading this,
After you’ve tried to get in touch with a friend who doesn’t answer your calls or respond to your messages, and you subsequently encounter them face-to-face and they say, “I’VE BEEN BUSY,” that’s another way of saying, “YOU ARE NOT THAT IMPORTANT.” Steer clear of that person ASAP.
It’s even more alarming when you meet them face-to-face and they introduce you to others as if you share a close friendship. Using phrases like, “This is my guy, My Gee, My Person, Onyem.” That’s a high level of deception…RUN
Now an essential reminder to my so-called friends;
Knowing a major Artist doesn’t make you a major Artist. Knowing Obi Cubana doesn’t make you Obi Cubana. Since some of you take pleasure in being associated only with famous individuals, remember that the person you’re neglecting today might be the next Obi Cubana or significant Artist or even greater. And when that person begins disregarding you as you did, you will convince others that the person is arrogant without making it known how it all began. This is, in fact, the story of many celebrities who choose to ignore certain individuals. By the way, instead of merely following renowned celebrities or affluent individuals, why not aspire to be one of the big shots too, rather than living in a fantasy.
Declaring that he is traditional and exceedingly loyal, the artist took issue with the modern tendency to treat friendships like commercial transactions, insisting that authentic bonds should be founded on honesty and dedication. The post struck a chord with many, eliciting widespread backing from those who cherish true loyalty in their personal lives.
“No be only you sabi dey busy,” he expressed, venting frustration about individuals who overlook calls and messages without any courtesy. His new guideline? If he dials your number twice and doesn’t receive a response within 24 hours, your contact will be erased. No exceptions.